infertility

infertility

Tuesday 7 August 2012

Not my children. +20.5 months

We have been transferred to Bristol, where there is no waiting list, but have to get through the preliminary tests before we know (how) they will treat us.

I don't think every clinic has the same criteria for treating couples, let alone giving them ICSI, so we wait for our initial appointment to see what will happen.

In the meantime, I resist any suggestion that we deserve or have a right to children, or are suffering anything out of the ordinary. This is not the case. A wise lady I know shared the following, from Gibran's The Prophet, with me. Whatever the future holds, I hope I can continue to believe this to be true.

"Your children are not your children
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams,
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The Archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the Archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable."